Agreeing with Everyone November 26, 2006
Posted by The Probabilist in : [Articles], Communication, Personal Growth, Psychology, Relationships, Beliefs, Abilities , 4 comments
There are two ways you can disagree with someone else and I’d like to clearly separate them from each other so that you can enjoy improved relationships with others. One of them is that you think the other person is wrong and the other is that you think he is right, but you consider it wrong in your own reality. The former way to disagree will get you in trouble and the latter will boost your relationships up a notch.
You need to remember that people always state what they believe is right, with the exception of those who deliberately try to lie and deceive. Therefore, in general, whether you think or say out loud that they are wrong, you’ll just hit your head against a wall. This person doesn’t want to hear such a thing and it will only lead to their ears and mind closing up to start listening to your point of view.
Take for instance an acquaintance of yours saying that Celine Dion is the greatest singer of all time. Just because this statement might turn your guts inside out just from the thought of this singer, doesn’t change the fact that this person’s opinion is totally accurate. Trying to convince her otherwise has two dire consequences.
Firstly, the initial feeling she gets will be negative towards you. While this particular example isn’t very personal, it’s still an attack against her judgment skills. You’re literally telling her that she’s deluded and has poor taste. Secondly, the psychological barrier between you and her has increased. This means that you might think she doesn’t have other useful information or insights to offer and she now thinks you don’t deserve to hear her opinions.
Then there’s the productive way to handle this situation. Simply agreeing with this statement is not only the correct way to interpret the situation, but it will also strengthen the underlying relationship. Ok, so obviously you want to change the subject because it’s making you cringe. Then all you need to do is agree to disagree on the matter and move on to something else. There’s a reason why this person exists in your reality after all.
Think of it as a way to improve your social skills. The tougher it is for you to agree with someone, the greater the need for you to face this challenge. Don’t choose the easy alternative of just blowing a person off and excluding him or her from your reality. You’re only suppressing and weakening your ability to get along with others this way.
I’ve reached a point where I can get along with anyone I want simply because I don’t disagree with other people’s points of view. It doesn’t matter if someone says they believe or don’t believe in God. Either way, they’re right and I can’t prove them wrong. I can sit and listen to their opinions and choose for myself what I want to believe in, without treading on their beliefs or feeling uneasy of the subject.
Conclusively, I can’t force you to believe and agree with what I write. That’s entirely your business and not mine. You can believe that you can improve your personal development or that you can’t improve it. Either way, you’re absolutely right.
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Handbook of the Navigator November 25, 2006
Posted by The Probabilist in : [Books], Consciousness, Personal Growth, Philosophy, Purpose, Beliefs, Science, Weird , 1 comment so far
This particular book by Eric Pepin is somewhat different from those I usually read. And it’s not for all kinds of readers either. Since this book is of a spiritual and philosophical nature I wouldn’t suggest it to those who are very rigid in their ways and thinking. Not knowing what kind of insights the Handbook of the Navigator delivers I just started and kept on reading it until the end.
Being the founder of the Higher Balance Institute, he wrote this book as support or a guide to better grasp what kind of services he offers through his website and why the message is of importance to us. In summary the Handbook of the Navigator contains his experiences, what the navigator is, what our purposes are, different perspectives on consciousness, who or what God is, how the universe was created, the concept of duality, what the soul is and for, awakening from our sleep, multi-dimensional meditation and lastly, how to awaken.
At this point I’d like to express that the content is not just about metaphysical and spiritual issues, but he uses a great deal of biology and science as well to explain why there is more to the universe than simply what our five sense can comprehend and experience. To me, these were the most interesting bits of information along with the somewhat philosophical approaches of defining the existence and meaning of the universe and ourselves.
I also like the way he writes - very thought-provoking to say the least. I’m not very much into psychic phenomena and spiritual experiences because I have yet to experience them to be able to make a statement regarding them. But as I’ve started to use a more successful approach in reaching truth and belief, I’ve managed to become even more open-minded to books like this one. It’s your level of awareness that ultimately defines how useful this book is to you. Besides, it’s available for download free of charge over at this website.
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