Caring and Worrying December 25, 2006
Posted by The Probabilist in : [Articles], Consciousness, Communication, Emotions, Health, Personal Growth, Psychology, Relationships, Beliefs, Responsibility, Wealth, Words, Abilities , 75 commentsDepending on your emotional balance you may often find yourself caring or worrying about things that you feel are beyond your influence. By this I mean other people, their thoughts about you, personal possession that are of value to you or even your own personal growth in various areas. What other people think of you is something that so many people today have a problem finding an inner balance to. How do you advance your personal growth without having to face the resistance of what others think of you and your pursuits?
The first step in this process is to clearly separate caring and worrying from each other. Worrying is in the negative spectrum of thoughts/emotions while caring is in the positive spectrum of thoughts/emotions. The path to easier personal growth depends on understanding this vital first step. You should not stop caring about what others think of you! You should stop worrying about it. The difference in nuance is of importance since all personal growth involves gradually shifting your reality towards the positive polarity of things, whatever area it is you’re focusing on.
This is why it’s so important that you first reach the awareness of what the words you are using really mean. Otherwise your conscious mind and your subconscious mind may build up conflicts that cause you to crash (getting ill, procrastinating, experiencing fear). So acknowledge first that all worry is of negative impact to you and all caring is of positive impact to your life.
Why is this separation crucial? It’s because of the law of attraction. You create the reality you think of. You will end up manifesting that which you worry of happening. If you worry that others think negative thoughts about you, then in reality it is already true that they do. The only way you can measure this notion is in your own mind and with this scenario in action, worrying truly creates what you worry about. That’s why the second step is eliminating all worry from your reality.
Stop worrying about your home when you’re on vacation, your child when (s)he is taken care of by others and what other people think of you. You can’t influence these matters directly, only indirectly. And at this point we’re starting to borderline with the caring instead of the worrying aspect of things.
The third step is to add more care into your reality. As I mentioned earlier you should care about your possessions, the people around you and what they are thinking of you. It is important since because it is in the positive spectrum, it improves your life and reality. Here’s how to do it.
Ask around what people think of you and your endeavours. Ask what they think of your new business idea, about trying to quit smoking, about setting goals for the coming year, about your current relationships or about your financial situation. Listen to their input and care about their thoughts, insights and perspectives over an issue. Make a mental note about their level of success and awareness within it. You might come to the conclusion that person A is good in raising your compassion toward helping people, but lowering your courage to start a business. And then person B might raise your will to start exercising and eating healthy but lower your interest in spiritual and intuitive guidance and methods. Then all you need to do is turn to the right people for the right thoughts that are in your interest. How can people think negative thoughts about you if you respect them, value their knowledge and want to learn from them? You’ve shown for yourself and others that you care about their thoughts as well as your own growth. It’s your task to figure out whose advice to follow and whose advice not to follow. It will be easier and easier the more you raise your own understanding and awareness of living a prosperous life.
The fourth step is grasping the link between care and worry. The less you care, the more you worry. And the more you care, the less you worry. Those who worry the most seem to care the least, while those who care the most seem to worry the least. This is the step of taking action. If you worry about your personal finances, it’s time to start caring about them. If you worry about your health, it’s time to start caring about it. If you worry what others think of you, start caring about their thoughts. And behold, your worries vanish into thin air once you’ve taken care of these issues.
I care about my own personal development in health, relationships, success, wealth, inner balance and purpose just as I care for your personal development in these areas. With so much caring, how can there be room for worry about what others think of me? If you worry that others think of you in a negative way it quite simply means that you don’t care enough about yourself. Let that sentence sink into you with an open mind. Happiness and caring dissipates worry. Caring is being proactive while worrying is a feeling of guilt for not caring enough in the first place.
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Expectations and Outcome December 22, 2006
Posted by The Probabilist in : [Articles], Consciousness, Gratitude, Health, Goals, Personal Growth, Productivity, Beliefs, Work , 22 commentsFirst we set expectations about something and then we experience the outcome. Is there a point in setting expectations? Should they be set high or low? Do they depend on a positive or negative outcome? How much are we able to influence expectations and outcome? What possible combinations are there and which one is the most optimal one to live by?
I’ve separated the first part of this article into a traditional perspective of measuring the correlation between an expectation and its outcome. The second part then presents an alternative model of answering the questions above.
A good outcome (e.g. going on vacation)
In the case of something good happening to you, the best kind of expectation you should be setting is a low one, because then you will either get what you expect, or be positively surprised. High expectations on the other hand only have neutral or downside potential.
A bad outcome (e.g. getting ill)
What’s that I suggest? Setting as harsh expectations as possible with the possibility to get positively delighted by potentially milder outcomes? The results are certainly irrefutable. But what does that tell us about all of this? It tells us to be pessimists both when considering good and bad outcomes. Pessimists never get disappointed they say. However, I hope that you have the consciousness to disregard this model, even though it may seem to be an effective and precise way to structure how expectations and outcome relate to each other. There’s one more variable that this model hasn’t taken into account. And it is the outcome.
The outcome itself is within your grasp to influence! But only if you believe it to be. From this point onwards it’s your own level of open-mindedness and power of thought that determines if the following model is more useful to you. I state that the most optimal way to live by is to set no expectations and only experience good outcomes. Let’s break that down into two parts.
Setting no expectations means that whenever a good outcome occurs, you will always be positively surprised. It doesn’t matter if it is low or high, it’s always better than nil. And so all good outcomes are joyful occurrences in your life. When it comes to bad outcomes, simply eliminate them from your reality. What’s the point in getting ill anyway? Stop worrying about your health and don’t let negative feelings and thoughts inside you create an illness. If you still do get ill, think of it as your immune system wanting to make an upgrade, which is in your own best interest.
The other part is focusing on the outcome. Only allow good outcomes to exist in your reality. You’re the one who is in control of what you get, so why experience bad outcomes? Cleaning your garage can be a fun activity. Let The luckiest man in Babylon show you how to positively relate to work. And let James Allen show you what creates illness, setbacks and misfortunes and how to eliminate them.
Sometimes you don’t even know if you should expect something good or something bad from an event. Take for instance an invitation to a festivity. It could be boring and tedious with uninspiring people. You’re the one who is making it so! Change the outcome to what you want to experience.
The way I see it is that pessimists are the ones who are neutral to the 90 % of the time they get what they want and are angry and dissatisfied the 10 % of the times they don’t get what they expect. Optimists are neutral to the 10 % and happy over the 90 % of positive outcomes. This is why you may not want to take things for granted.
In fact, pessimists use the power of thought against them and create less desirable outcomes, which is what they expect, while optimists create more desirable outcomes because they don’t worry about setting expectations. They care about the outcome and results, and therefore influence them instead. Whichever of the two models presented in this article you choose to live by, that’s the one you’ll see proof of working - exactly as it is designed to.
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