Problems and Challenges December 30, 2006
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There are no problems, only challenges. This is something I’m living by. Problem is another word I’ve eliminated from my vocabulary since it has a negative sound and meaning to it. I visualize it as something that causes a person to end up in a dead end with no way out. Solving a problem literally means that the problem no longer exists. So why should one experience problems at all in the first place?
I’d like to again explain my view by thinking of a scale that has a negative and a positive polarity. Naturally, problems are therefore in the negative side and challenges are on the positive side of the scale. In what ways are problems causing negative side effects?
Firstly, it’s a total waste of time. Thinking about a problem extensively has the power to prevent its possessor from doing other things that are far more useful and productive. Secondly, it’s a mood killer. It has the power to temporarily descend its possessor into a lower level of consciousness and this can cause powerlessness to face other questions that require attention, will, clarity and understanding to answer. Thirdly, it’s actually quite silly to be in a state that causes a person to stagnate and feel helpless. We all have the capacity to know better than that. It’s comparable to being afraid of public speaking or asking a person out. Isn’t it downright pointless to experience these fears or problems?
The alternatives a person is weighing in their mind hasn’t happened yet! How can one experience the downsides of each alternative to a problem when they haven’t even occurred? Say you have to choose between two events that are double booked. Viewing the situation as a problem means that all you see is that you will miss out on one of them. This is both negative thinking and not part of present reality. The productive perspective on the situation is that no matter what choice you make, you will enjoy it. Is there really a point in feeling the negative emotions of missing out or guilt for not showing up in the other event? Of course not. Beating yourself up over something is equally terrible as beating somebody else up over something! Why would you do that to yourself? You’ll only experience one of the events, and that’s all that matters. Enjoy the one you choose instead because that’s what you’ll end up experiencing first hand when the time comes.
So how do you make the decision which one to attend? That’s where the challenge lies. That’s where the creative mind acknowledges a need to grow out of the problem. The current level of thinking is what creates the problem in the first place. A year or perhaps five years from now a person can look back and wonder how arbitrary and utterly pointless today’s problems were as a part of the individual reality. A closed mind however gets to live with the same problems throughout the whole life. It’s a shame really because things and people are picking up ever quicker and quicker paces of change and movement and the laggards are left to suffer. That’s why these people ought to be the ones asking these questions to themselves instead of ignoring and avoiding them.
By looking at a so called problem as a challenge, it is a trigger for personal development. It’s a mean for outgrowing the whole aspect of experiencing problems. A challenge is always regarded as a path to a positive outcome that you strive for and its sole purpose is to make and feel a difference within you when achieved. If you can’t imagine such a scenario in your problem then you shouldn’t let it exist in the first place. But if there is one, then you should convert it into a challenge that is in need of your utmost attention, will, clarity and understanding. Sometimes one can mistakenly decide to discard a problem because there doesn’t seem to be any positive solutions to it. Yet, there are multiple solutions to many so called problems, and a productive one may still be hidden. Only experience and an open mind have the ability to discover them. And that’s what continuous development is all about. It’s no quick fix solution to solve the problems or challenges that you identify in your life. But at least ask yourself first how you can lessen the amount of problems while increasing the amount of challenges in it.
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Caring and Worrying December 25, 2006
Posted by The Probabilist in : [Articles], Consciousness, Communication, Emotions, Health, Personal Growth, Psychology, Relationships, Beliefs, Responsibility, Wealth, Words, Abilities , 73 comments
Depending on your emotional balance you may often find yourself caring or worrying about things that you feel are beyond your influence. By this I mean other people, their thoughts about you, personal possession that are of value to you or even your own personal growth in various areas. What other people think of you is something that so many people today have a problem finding an inner balance to. How do you advance your personal growth without having to face the resistance of what others think of you and your pursuits?
The first step in this process is to clearly separate caring and worrying from each other. Worrying is in the negative spectrum of thoughts/emotions while caring is in the positive spectrum of thoughts/emotions. The path to easier personal growth depends on understanding this vital first step. You should not stop caring about what others think of you! You should stop worrying about it. The difference in nuance is of importance since all personal growth involves gradually shifting your reality towards the positive polarity of things, whatever area it is you’re focusing on.
This is why it’s so important that you first reach the awareness of what the words you are using really mean. Otherwise your conscious mind and your subconscious mind may build up conflicts that cause you to crash (getting ill, procrastinating, experiencing fear). So acknowledge first that all worry is of negative impact to you and all caring is of positive impact to your life.
Why is this separation crucial? It’s because of the law of attraction. You create the reality you think of. You will end up manifesting that which you worry of happening. If you worry that others think negative thoughts about you, then in reality it is already true that they do. The only way you can measure this notion is in your own mind and with this scenario in action, worrying truly creates what you worry about. That’s why the second step is eliminating all worry from your reality.
Stop worrying about your home when you’re on vacation, your child when (s)he is taken care of by others and what other people think of you. You can’t influence these matters directly, only indirectly. And at this point we’re starting to borderline with the caring instead of the worrying aspect of things.
The third step is to add more care into your reality. As I mentioned earlier you should care about your possessions, the people around you and what they are thinking of you. It is important since because it is in the positive spectrum, it improves your life and reality. Here’s how to do it.
Ask around what people think of you and your endeavours. Ask what they think of your new business idea, about trying to quit smoking, about setting goals for the coming year, about your current relationships or about your financial situation. Listen to their input and care about their thoughts, insights and perspectives over an issue. Make a mental note about their level of success and awareness within it. You might come to the conclusion that person A is good in raising your compassion toward helping people, but lowering your courage to start a business. And then person B might raise your will to start exercising and eating healthy but lower your interest in spiritual and intuitive guidance and methods. Then all you need to do is turn to the right people for the right thoughts that are in your interest. How can people think negative thoughts about you if you respect them, value their knowledge and want to learn from them? You’ve shown for yourself and others that you care about their thoughts as well as your own growth. It’s your task to figure out whose advice to follow and whose advice not to follow. It will be easier and easier the more you raise your own understanding and awareness of living a prosperous life.
The fourth step is grasping the link between care and worry. The less you care, the more you worry. And the more you care, the less you worry. Those who worry the most seem to care the least, while those who care the most seem to worry the least. This is the step of taking action. If you worry about your personal finances, it’s time to start caring about them. If you worry about your health, it’s time to start caring about it. If you worry what others think of you, start caring about their thoughts. And behold, your worries vanish into thin air once you’ve taken care of these issues.
I care about my own personal development in health, relationships, success, wealth, inner balance and purpose just as I care for your personal development in these areas. With so much caring, how can there be room for worry about what others think of me? If you worry that others think of you in a negative way it quite simply means that you don’t care enough about yourself. Let that sentence sink into you with an open mind. Happiness and caring dissipates worry. Caring is being proactive while worrying is a feeling of guilt for not caring enough in the first place.
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