Caring and Worrying December 25, 2006
Posted by The Probabilist in : [Articles], Consciousness, Communication, Emotions, Health, Personal Growth, Psychology, Relationships, Beliefs, Responsibility, Wealth, Words, Abilities , 73 comments
Depending on your emotional balance you may often find yourself caring or worrying about things that you feel are beyond your influence. By this I mean other people, their thoughts about you, personal possession that are of value to you or even your own personal growth in various areas. What other people think of you is something that so many people today have a problem finding an inner balance to. How do you advance your personal growth without having to face the resistance of what others think of you and your pursuits?
The first step in this process is to clearly separate caring and worrying from each other. Worrying is in the negative spectrum of thoughts/emotions while caring is in the positive spectrum of thoughts/emotions. The path to easier personal growth depends on understanding this vital first step. You should not stop caring about what others think of you! You should stop worrying about it. The difference in nuance is of importance since all personal growth involves gradually shifting your reality towards the positive polarity of things, whatever area it is you’re focusing on.
This is why it’s so important that you first reach the awareness of what the words you are using really mean. Otherwise your conscious mind and your subconscious mind may build up conflicts that cause you to crash (getting ill, procrastinating, experiencing fear). So acknowledge first that all worry is of negative impact to you and all caring is of positive impact to your life.
Why is this separation crucial? It’s because of the law of attraction. You create the reality you think of. You will end up manifesting that which you worry of happening. If you worry that others think negative thoughts about you, then in reality it is already true that they do. The only way you can measure this notion is in your own mind and with this scenario in action, worrying truly creates what you worry about. That’s why the second step is eliminating all worry from your reality.
Stop worrying about your home when you’re on vacation, your child when (s)he is taken care of by others and what other people think of you. You can’t influence these matters directly, only indirectly. And at this point we’re starting to borderline with the caring instead of the worrying aspect of things.
The third step is to add more care into your reality. As I mentioned earlier you should care about your possessions, the people around you and what they are thinking of you. It is important since because it is in the positive spectrum, it improves your life and reality. Here’s how to do it.
Ask around what people think of you and your endeavours. Ask what they think of your new business idea, about trying to quit smoking, about setting goals for the coming year, about your current relationships or about your financial situation. Listen to their input and care about their thoughts, insights and perspectives over an issue. Make a mental note about their level of success and awareness within it. You might come to the conclusion that person A is good in raising your compassion toward helping people, but lowering your courage to start a business. And then person B might raise your will to start exercising and eating healthy but lower your interest in spiritual and intuitive guidance and methods. Then all you need to do is turn to the right people for the right thoughts that are in your interest. How can people think negative thoughts about you if you respect them, value their knowledge and want to learn from them? You’ve shown for yourself and others that you care about their thoughts as well as your own growth. It’s your task to figure out whose advice to follow and whose advice not to follow. It will be easier and easier the more you raise your own understanding and awareness of living a prosperous life.
The fourth step is grasping the link between care and worry. The less you care, the more you worry. And the more you care, the less you worry. Those who worry the most seem to care the least, while those who care the most seem to worry the least. This is the step of taking action. If you worry about your personal finances, it’s time to start caring about them. If you worry about your health, it’s time to start caring about it. If you worry what others think of you, start caring about their thoughts. And behold, your worries vanish into thin air once you’ve taken care of these issues.
I care about my own personal development in health, relationships, success, wealth, inner balance and purpose just as I care for your personal development in these areas. With so much caring, how can there be room for worry about what others think of me? If you worry that others think of you in a negative way it quite simply means that you don’t care enough about yourself. Let that sentence sink into you with an open mind. Happiness and caring dissipates worry. Caring is being proactive while worrying is a feeling of guilt for not caring enough in the first place.
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Why Certainty Is a Limiting Belief December 15, 2006
Posted by The Probabilist in : [Articles], Consciousness, Emotions, Gratitude, Health, Personal Growth, Philosophy, Purpose, Beliefs, Responsibility, Vision, Wealth , add a comment
In the about page is a definition of a probabilist. I’d like to explain myself with greater detail why being certain about anything and everything you can think of can be a limiting belief and a limiting model of reality. The point is also to show why uncertaintly isn’t chaotic, unbalanced or without clear directions.
The best way to introduce this concept is through a great quote I’m having trouble finding an author to. “When you decide what is, you limit yourself from what could be.” Whether these are the exact words or not, their meaning and impact make a lot of sense to me. Your consciousness may need several uplifting or downcasting jolts that help you to awaken and embrace this concept so that it’s a part of your understanding of how the universe and the reality you live in works.
Here are a few examples to better illustrate this view. Did Columbus listen to the common belief that the earth is definitely flat? Did Copernicus listen to the common belief that the earth is definitely the center of the solar system? Did the Wright brothers listen to the common belief that man definitely cannot fly? And did Darwin listen to the common belief that man is definitely separate and superior to animals?
No, they all wanted more evidence of the opposite.
Am I then saying that they are definitely right? Not entirely. I haven’t went around the world, haven’t seen for myself that the sun is at the center of the solar system and I can’t visually see the pattern of species evolving. But what these people have discovered appears more accurate than what was commonly believed prior to their discoveries. They saw the possibility that things may be different than what they seem, and took action. This is the power of being open-minded. It’s the ability to question the status quo of what is, and start wondering what can be. It’s the ability to leave doors open for higher and improved understanding about the nature of things.
Now consider the following opinions. Diseases occur because you attract them. You can live on two hours of sleep per day. You can live a life without any setbacks and misfortunes. You can eliminate any negative feelings you want from your reality - hate, sorrow, disgust, jealousy, worry, pride, anxiety, fear, craving, vanity etc. You can attract all the health, wealth, relationships, happiness and peace you seek. All you need to do is claim them. If you believe these opinions to be incorrect, unattainable or unimaginable, then that’s the reality you will exist in. But if you constantly increase your options, awareness and most of all possibilities and likelihood that all of these ideas may be proven true, then all you need to do is choose to test them for yourself. That’s what great men and women have done and do every single day.
If something doesn’t work or a new belief you tried didn’t present any valid proof, then you can always return back into your comfort zone and try something else. Failing doesn’t make you a failure, not doing anything is what does. You can only lose what you already have, if you decide to discard it. And that only happens after you discover something improved to your liking - something that pushes your whole being and consciousness to a new level. That’s when you have the choice to leave the old you behind and embrace the new You, version 1.01.
This is partly the reason why uncertainty doesn’t make life inconsistent, problematic or overwhelming. There is only one productive direction and it is up. Granted, sometimes you may be perplexed as to which choices result in an upward state of awareness. The bottom line is, the more choices you face and decisions you make, the better the outcomes and your capability to make good decisions. And most importantly, keep exploring new choices and possibilities constantly. The stagnating individuals of today are the ones that deny and avoid making decisions. Thus, they live the lives of others.
The second reason why you shouldn’t take anything for granted is the amount of gratitude you have the power to feel towards your existence. Tomorrow you could be hit by a car and sitting in a wheel chair for the rest of your life. How about losing all of your possessions in a fire or natural disaster. Or losing someone you love to the afterlife. These are also the possibilities and probabilities you may be ignoring because you’ve chosen to neglect them. So stop taking your reality for granted, both the positive and the negative, and start pondering if there’s a truth in the saying that life is what you make it.
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